I will hold my hands up, and admit that i was judgmental. It's easy to do when you have no children of your own. I had no idea.
There were so many things that i thought i would never do. Things i said i would never do. And ways i thought i would parent. And here i am, being a hypocrite.
I can sit now and laugh at how delusional i was. I really had no clue!
So mamas, i apologize for the judgements. Here are the top 5 (out of about 100) things i said i would never allow.
Now laugh along with me. It's easy to imagine that this is a reality, but sometimes you.just.need.a.minute.
Don't get me wrong, i still am choosy with what Nyla watches. And without any judgement here, there are no pepper pigs in this house. However, Ny is a HUGE Cocomelon fan.
I have read a lot of articles about this being a bad show but i disagree. Nyla loves music, and singing and dancing along. Cocomelon has taught her a lot. Thanks to The Potty song and Brush your teeth song some tasks have been a breeze with her. She will ask for this on saying "JJ" or "Coco" and some songs she stops to watch, sometimes it's just on in the background.
The other show Nyla is obsessed with, is Songs for Littles on YouTube. Since watching this show her vocabulary has grown so much. She comes out with new words every day, she can sing and dance to nursery rhymes such as wind the bobbin, happy and you know it, wheels on the bus. She also feeds her dolls after seeing this on the show, and how to tell me all done.
Other shows she watches (or are on in the background sometimes) are Mr Bean and Peter Rabbit, and Little Baby Bum (although it goes through me so not as much).
"I won't give her a tablet until she is older"
Yea ... she has one. I only give it to her when i really need her to sit still. For example to do her hair in the morning, while waiting for food, or when she is impatient and bored travelling.
"She will be in her own room at 6 months. I won't have her in my bed. "
Wow was i wrong on this one. We bedshared from 4 months to 10 months, and she currently sleeps in a sidecar bed in my room (more on this to come).
"I'm not going to give my child a dummy."
I feel like this is something that every expectant parent says. The dream of a child who doesn't need one. The fear of ruining their teeth and the stress of weaning them off it. I never judged anyone for giving their child one, because to me, babies had dummies. And that was totally normal. I have been judged from others for her having one though. I have been on buses and people commented i should take it away from her. Or had other mums brag about how their child has never had one and how bad for their teeth they are.
Dummies actually are beneficial to babies. They help soothe them, they calm them down, they help prevent SIDS. Yes, prolonged use can cause damage but as i baby, i say let them have one.
Nyla has hers only for nap and bedtime. She knows it is only for sleep, and will give it to me when she wakes up or if she doesn't need it anymore.
"I won't let her eat junk food."
I have since realised, that i am a everything in moderation type of parent. Nyla loves food, and eats anything. And i love that she is enjoying trying new foods. I don't want her to be a fussy baby. So has she had kfc? yes. Has she had chinese takeout? yes. Has she had McDonalds? yes. Does she eat chocolate? yes.
I am happy for her to try things, but i do limit what she has. For example from the chinese, she had some of my egg fried rice and curry sauce. Mcdonalds, she had fish fingers and cucumber sticks. She only gets a couple of chips from KFC etc. I want her to experience stuff, not be unhealthy.
There are just so many little things like the examples above, that i really had noooo idea i would find myself doing.
Do i see anything wrong with your child having a happy meal with nuggets and chips? no. As long as it's not an everyday thing. You do you. I personally choose to give her cucumber sticks and fish fingers because she likes them.
Do i think that screen-time is bad for her? no. Everything in moderation. She isn't sat in front of the tablet, my phone, or tv 24/7. It is on in the background, educational tv shows, and she does a lot besides watch them.
What did you think you would never do/say before having kids?
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